No, I am not referring to The Birds and The Bees here – I would hope that if you are reading this you are pretty well covered there. This “talk” I am referring to is the one that absolutely needs to be had with your aging parents (if you are in that position). If you are too young for that (not likely), then make sure your parents have this “talk” with their parents.
Here’s the deal…
Just landed at O’Hare, and while we were taxiing to the gate (can take a while at O’Hare), a woman behind me makes a call and was having what seemed to be a difficult conversation. What caught my ear was when she said this: “…well, the house the house is in my name, which means it is mine, and all the contents, and nobody else is getting anything.”
Now, to be fair, I have no clue what the situation is and I am NOT, and I repeat, NOT judging her in anyway, shape, or form.
It did not make me mad or upset in any way. It made me sad that for whatever reason, she had to have that conversation with whomever was on the phone.
The other two relevant quotes were:
1 – “Nobody was there to take care of grandma except for me”
2 – “The was no will saying who gets anything”
Having spent much caregiving time for both of my parents and losing them both in the last couple years (Mom in 2016, Dad in 2017), I had many fairly difficult conversations with all sorts of people. And for only 3 easy payment of $9.99, you can have my ebook that covers some of my suggestions.
I am kidding. The payments are $19.99.
(This is the part where you either laugh, or flame me)
Kidding aside, the “ebook” I wrote (for which there is no charge) is short but covers some of the things that I think are really, really important to talk about with aging parents, grandparents, etc.
You can download the PDF HERE.
I won’t rant about this, I promise, but there is zero reason that anyone should die without at least a will in place, and hopefully some dialog about who they want to get their things and what happens to their bodies. Their “wishes”, as people like to call it.
Why is this so important and why was I basically taking notes during that woman’s conversation?
Because with some very, very simple planning and a few discussions with the right
people, a TON of pain, aggravation, and countless lost hours (and hair) can be avoided.
Do NOT make the mistake that the woman on the plane’s family apparently made. Trust me, you’ll be super happy you don’t – as will your relatives that pass. They won’t have to haunt you for many years then.
Again, Joe’s short list of suggestions can be downloaded HERE.
Enjoy. And remember not to take a call in front of me on the airplane. I might blog about it later.