Before I get started, when someone says “Accountability” to you, what comes to your mind?
- Oh s**t, what did I do wrong?
- I really should workout more?
- A strange sense of guilt for no apparent reason?
- Did my spouse ask you to say that?
Not sure if any of those came to your mind, but I would bet a dollar that it wasn’t a warm, fuzzy, positive feeling – just my guess.
Why is that?
Why does “accountability” have a negative connotation? Why do most people not want this thing called “accountability”?
I’ll tell you why…
Because we ALL need Accountability – and we ALL know it –
and most importantly, we DO NOT like it!
I would submit that most of us do not like accountability in any form. I am not a psychologist, so not going to dive deep into the “why” part of that, but in laymen’s terms I think that most of us just like to do whatever the “eff” we want to do. Screw accountability – I’ll take of myself.
If you are “special” and like accountability, then God bless you.
But not wanting accountability and asking for it anyway is truly special. And that is EXACTLY what everyone should do.
So you say, OK smart guy, what kind of accountability do I need? I’m not in jail, not living in a van down by the river (click HERE if you are too young to get that reference), I am generally a good person. What’s the deal here?
OK, so if you are not responding to this from your jail cell, that’s great news. But let’s be honest, none of us are perfect and we all could improve, arguably in every aspect of our lives. I pray you are not arrogant enough to argue with that point.
That said, I’d suggest there are three key areas of accountability that we ALL need (there are arguably many more, but I think if you can hit these three at a minimum, the rest will sort itself out):
I suggest these three specifically, as I believe that if you are healthy, professionally fulfilled, and spiritually grounded, I would submit that you are light years ahead of most people.
Now, admittedly, I could write a long blog on each of these areas (and I probably will later), but the focus of this blog is really to drive home these two points:
We ALL need improvement in these areas
NONE of us can do it effectively on our own
They (whoever “they” are) say that the first step in fixing a problem is admitting that you have one. And that’s kind of the point here. We (not singling out anyone here) all need help. But we have to come to terms with that if we are truly going to do something about it.
If you can admit that a) you could use some improvement in these areas and b) you could use a little help and guidance in doing so, then you have taken a huge step forward.
I have some specific thoughts around who and how to get started here, but since I try to keep my blogs relatively short, I’ll address the “how” stuff in another blog.
What I want to focus on here is the need for accountability that we ALL have. Also … and this is critical here … there is nothing wrong with that.
Needing accountability is not a sign of weakness or failure – not even close!
Acknowledging your weaknesses and areas for improvement AND doing something about them is actually a sign of great strength.
Accountability is not bad – don’t be afraid of it – embrace it.
If everyone had more, true accountability, I promise the world would be a much better place.
Wrap your brains around that and I’ll write a bit about the “how” side of things in my next blog…
Have a great New Year!